Monday, February 15, 2010

The Five Stages

I have to admit that I have learned so much from dating. The longer you are on the dating scene, the smarter you become. At least I can say this about myself. My time becomes more precious and I am much closer to having what I want (I think so anyways).

According to David Gray, author of “Mars and Venus on a Date”, there are five stages a couple go through to have a strong, successful relationship.

  1. The attraction phase: Dating, but not exclusively.
  2. The uncertainty phase: you may feel uncertain, maybe take a step back before you go forward (if you go forward).
  3. Exclusivity: you only date each other
  4. Intimacy: the fun begins
  5. Marriage: total commitment

I really recommend this book. It cleared up most questions I had. Maybe it can do the same for you if you are scratching your head wondering why things are not working out… you probably skipped a stage.. maybe slept with someone you barely knew and now wondering why she is crying and completely heart- broken when you needed some space to think- alone. Yes, it happened again(not talking about me here). Better luck next time. Unless sex is all you want, then good luck dealing with all the emotions heading your way.

Over and out,